Don't wish me "Happy Father's Day!"

Like me, I had never wish my dad ' Happy Father's Day' when I reached my teens. The only time I have ever gave him a present or wished him when I was around 8-10. As for me I was quite close with him till I was 14. After 17, we seems to go our own way. I was still living with my dad at 17 but there was no dad n son conversations.

He did joke once a while but its kind of sarcastic.. Since I was 13, I never shared my problems or achievements with him. He was a workaholic ( holding 2 jobs n working 18hrs a day) before he retired & there was no quality time or having dinner together.

Why did he had to work so hard? We can live comfortably with his day job. We were neither poor or rich. He never owned any credit cards ( which he is qualified for ) or have any debts. Everything was paid in cash. He does not own a car & the house mortgage is already fully paid.

I believed he was working hard to save for his retirement. Maybe he was thinking out of his 6 children (4 girls already married & 2 boys in their teens at that time), neither one of them may not be able to look after or support him once he retired.

I was always longing for a tap on the shoulder n hoping he would said like " Son, Well done.. you have make me proud" or scolded me for making mistakes. He just trusted me of making better decisions n that I can handle everything. At that age all children wants undying love n some kind of attention from their parents. Constant advices n nurturing.. Not leaving them all alone....

" Son, Don't call me on Father's Day; Don't call me on my birthday!"

Jaycee Chan & his Dad

Jaycee Chan at 16 - 17

Xin.sg - Tuesday, June 16

A "Big Brother" who passionately shows the roots of showbiz to his juniors, Jackie Chan is different as a daddy.

Taking the education of his son, Jaycee, into his own hands, Chan instilled so much fear in his son that the latter would never dream of offending his dad for fear of the consequences.

Chan said, "I've never taken care of my son nor sent him to school. For the first and only time that I went to pick him up from school, I went to the wrong one. I am not a good father but definitely a responsible one. My son is utterly afraid of me; he respects and listens to me. I don't think that I will be called a good daddy just by fetching my son to and from school. It's hard for someone like me. If I had sent him to school everyday, I don't think I will be who I am today."

He added, "There was once when I received a call from him while I was filming in Hengdian. You have to understand that he seldom calls me. And when he does, he is either asking for a ticket to watch the NBA match or that he has crashed my car.

"That day he called me to wish me Happy Father's Day! I sprouted some vulgarities and shouted at him: "Next time don't call me! Don't call me on Father's Day; don't call me on my birthday! Call me on usual days, do you get it?" And I hung up the phone immediately. I don't remember my parents' birthdays and I am not exceptionally nice only on Father's Day and Mother's Day. Everyday is like an occasion to me."

Last year, Jaycee told Xin.sg in an exclusive interview that he would be "digging his own grave" to be seeking his parents' advice on work issues. Ever since he was a child, his father only compliments him for one out of the hundred things he does.

Jaycee also said that he has a few of his father's songs in his car only for show and plays them when his dad is with him. On hearing this, Chan laughed, "If it's true, I'll slap him twice on his face when I return home.

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Do you all think Jackie is like that to his son? Maybe he was just too busy with his productions & filming or when Jackie's younger day he did not get any love from his dad.